This is Where Idle Time Gets Me

Pet peeves, we all have them, but I think mine can be extra special sometimes. Only because I've let so much go in the past and tried to ignore the small things....I don't think I've progressed much, tell me what you think, please?

Not in the correct ranking order, but not far off

#1 Sliding feet across a surface: Let me get straight to the point.....Pick your damn feet up. What is so hard about left foot, right foot. I can blame this across the board. I've seen big people do it, and I've seen small people do it too...its not that hard people...Lift and step...Lift and step again

#2 Muffin tops: Geeze, I've probably expressed this before, but clearly it's something that continues to bother me. Sweetheart, if you're a 12, leave the 10's and 8's to those who can wear them. Muffin tops should be treated like wearing pants below the waist.

#3 My personal mutha f'n space: That should just explain enough. Because it doesn't, I will explain a little more in dept. If I'm sitting alone w/ my thing spread over the table...that is not an invitation for a stranger to come and hang out...and please don't talk, because I WILL put my headphones on. Also standing in line...Why do people want to stand so damn close to you at times. I don't want to smell what kind of gum you might be chewing or what you had for lunch. I mean you HAVE to know you are in my space.

#4 Pseudo Ladies: This is pretty simple to me.... A female who stresses how much she should be respected for whatever reasons, but you wearing the uniform of a "hoe" all the time. Lets be real, if you taking pictures of yourself in your bathroom, in your drawls/half naked for example, you can't expect the average individual to treat you like a lady....instead of holding that camera up in the mirror, just stare in it for a minute and reflect. Ask "What might I be doing to my potential image?"...Sleep on that!

#5 People who volunteer lies: This could probably be something I could go in really deep about, but I won't...I'll stick to the surface of it. I have something that an ex told me when I was younger..."There are some things that should just be taken to the grave". So if I didn't ask you, and you think it might piss me off.....KEEP IT TO YOURSELF!. I experienced someone a few years back who volunteered a lie and it ticked me off when i found out, and yes I called her out on it...then she was speechless. Now I thought why in the hell did she tell me period...or why didn't she just tell me the truth. Not even close, she fabricated this grand story and it all turned on her without me ever asking about this situation....WHO THE F' KNOWS WHY???....I'm still trying to figure that one out.

**Sigh**, Week ending 2/26/2010

Decided to venture down the road today to a newly suggested spot that is very familiar to the eye, but I've never visited. I think I like it. Came in, order my drink and a small snack popped in my Badu, and start enjoying the scenery. Having my sister here would be the only thing to complete the experience.

I'm trying to finish the week off by getting rid of this 3 day headache (easier said than done). Maybe my music will level out my thoughts and stress. Seems to be the one thing that brings be back down from the random places that I tend to venture off to....Good news about today is that I think I opened a 17yr old's eyes to leaving this city for school. I think he genuinely would like to experience what it is like outside the this place ((success)). Granted the rest of the class was sleep, but they are jerks anyway. So, one down...15 more to wake up!

Long weekend ahead of workouts, meetings and projects...I need a damn secretary who works for free or one who gets paid of hugs....#dontjudgeme<<<<(twitter talk)

Thought I Could Hold It Off....

She said "Welcome to 30"

Me, "What?!, but I'll only be 27"

She stated again, "WELCOME to 30"

A snippet from a conversation I had with my sibling not long ago. Listening to me talk about who has been, is, and will possibly be entering my life, she has come to the conclusion that my 20s are over. Of course I battled that idea, but her ten years of experience shut that down within 5mins of the conversation.

Not that I don't look forward to it **I secretly don't** but, I just hadn't evaluated how I think about certain things they way she did.

Told me, will stop hanging out in clubs....I'm about a year or two into that quest.

Said I will look at the "club female" differently....Yeah, like she's a distraction from me getting to my drink.

Elaborated on the idea that chasing would be almost non existent....LMAO, I stopped traveling across town once...clearly these omens are true.

"Aww, my little brother is changing" she said....***me thinking** "Oh great, is this for the better or worst????

Ah well, 20s it was fun knowing ya. I had great times and you treated my liver well. You taught me things that no one ever could. We should definitely write each other sometime or maybe even hang out once or twice a year....Just a thought. I'll miss yo bud **tear**

Riddle me this!

So this is the short version of tonight's thoughts/conversation. During the course of a conversation I made a joke about finding a "boo" on match.com or myspace.com. Well what was said to me was, " How about meeting someone the old-fashion way"

I stated, "Old-fashion like what?...grocery store, bookstore, mall, coffee shop, museum?"

She said "that might work"

I said, "Yes that's ideal, but its not likely"

She said " we've gotten so lazy with this technology"

Well although I was joking about the online dating thing. It made me wonder about some things. I am a male who goes places alone at times and I'm very observant in my surroundings. I followed up by asking "how am I suppose to do it old fashion when old-fashion doesn't really exist anymore?"

Lets take my personal experience for example:

Grocery: Rarely do I see a young black woman shopping....not that they don't but its a rare occasion.

Mall: Seriously...who wants a dude trying to get at them when they are trying to shop.

Bookstore: Been back in N.O. for a year and can count on both hands how many times I've seen a black woman in the bookstore.

Coffee shop: Same as the bookstore

Museum: Might be a place i luck up on but what are the chances?...and why is this my only real option?

Personally I'm not into meeting someone at the club and expecting to be serious or taken serious. I mean how often can you get something out of that specific kind of introduction.

Now my question is....Where do you all hang out?....The good, level headed women of the world who claim they are looking for a good man...Where would the average good guy find you? I'd like to know so I can pass the word on the the rest of the males who are just as lost as I am on this topic. Now for those who are sensitive to text, I am writing this because I hear more women vent about this so I pose the question to you all.

Note, this does not apply to women who make themselves "visually available"...I'm just trying to answer the question above...Where?

LOL F**k YOU, I'm offended

So many people know, get on my FB page and go on random moments of playing songs that I love have been introduced to in past and recent years. I have a huge love for most genres of music and can share more than most people can even think of. Granted I was never a music major, musician or DJ, but my passion for the art is up there.

Point of this blog is random and quick...I was told not long ago "you don't know about xxxxx"..... Hold up!, how the "f" you gonna tell me I'm not a fan of this person because I've never brought them up to YOU...so i feel like this "F**k you, I'm offended....I have song that will run circles around your head." Thing is, usually I would have taken that as a joke, but this individual was so serious and told me I had never heard their first or second cd, so I don't know about them. I'm sorry, but you are saying this to the individual who was rocking Robin Thicke's cd "Beautiful Mind" before a lot of people even knew of "Lost Without You"on the Evolution cd ...I mean come on, son! Lol....just thought I'd share that random thought with you guys....I'm done...til next time

Wouldn't trade it for the world

Its not me, I know its not me....I thought it was at first, but I'm convinced its definitely not me. Most of my experience with dating I've been given grief for having female friends. I have about 3 from high school (one I've been know since 13), 1 from college, 1 from Atl (my movie homie) and one newly acquired who's across the country.

My question is: why should I be judged because I have women in my life who give me good advice on some of the scandalous women who are in the world who are doing the most. I mean my sister does a damn good job, but the generational gap only allows me to deal w/ older women.

"You must like her..."

"Y'all must have had something..."

"Why do you have so many female friend?"

Yeah....my answer to all those is that...I like to know a woman's views on things, so I have an idea of how you all think. I know I'll never master it, but I will come as close as I can so I can avoid as many unnecessary issues as I can. I wouldn't trade their advice for anything.

Personally I think that every female should have at least 2 or 3 guys friends who they can trust to give them a heads up on how some men are. Why?...to avoid the BULLSHIT...yes!...think about it...every time you say "This is some bullshit" think...you should have had a sit down with your boy, and he probably would have let you know what was up before you stepped into that situation. Now you are running back to your girls who either can't break their own foolish cycle and says give him another chance or the one who has no clue what she's talking about. Seldom do you get info that is helpful that isn't provided by a man **the source**....This goes for guys as well, which is why I would not trade these women for anything. When I talk to them, they help keep me out of harms way....Thanks Ladies!

This event that will remain unnamed....

A day that can cause drama, bring love, and allow forgiveness has tainted our lives and divided us. I am on the fence with it to be honest. Personally, celebrating it is something I can do without. I'm definitely not anti ********* Day, but I don't like to make it seem like I'm making up for the other 364 days of the year. I guess saying that I don't like to celebrate it would be too harsh..how about, I don't like to make a big deal of the day...Yeah that sounds much better (for the sensitive readers).

I have NOT had a ********* and I have satisfied the need of an ex because it was special to her. What can I say, I'm a man of many talents.

Now I really think we should rename it "I'm making up for all the bullshit day" cause that is what most use it as.

But this year for ********* Day I will not bash the lovers although I'm sure others will think I am. I'm happy for those who are truly just seeing this as another day, and still doing something nice for each other. Don't forget ladies, its not a one way street....we like candy and stuff too.

I kinda missed my days of putting something down though for the "singles"...I did have a them song for us though "YOU ARE NOT ALONE"-M.J. ...**just the chorus should help**

I'd really like to know what you'll think on this?

This is the 12th comeback

So for 19th comeback...I have no clue what I'm going to talk about, but I know that something is on the brain. One thing I know is that I take way too many breaks away from blogs. Sometimes its because I need to collect my thoughts, sometimes I get distracted and lose focus but not anymore **shaking my finger**

2010 has been extra interesting so far. There will be many blogs to come that cover just the first to months of things on my mind and maybe even some personal experiences...I promise there will be no more weave/wig blogs...i had a nightmare after that one.

I really do want to write a book...I think that it would be pretty interesting. Maybe I should finish that fictional story I started about 3months ago. Still getting characters and the setting down......We'll see how well this goes over the next few months, but you all CAN expect some interesting blog topics. It seems the older I get, the more I wonder about everything that goes on....I can't really have that "I don't give a f**k" attitude anymore...or CAN I??????