Downward Spiral

"This is my sorry ass apology
I took your love for granted
So selfish just doing me
Now I feel like oh oh
Now you feel like oh oh oh
This is my sorry ass apology"

I have a huge problem with some of today's poor excuse for R&B and even some more of the past 10yrs. Its like the "MEN" of R&B have curled up in a corner, put their tail between their legs and rocked themselves to sleep. I really don't get this "Sorry Ass Apology" song. I mean it seems clear in the message, in what its trying to say, but seriously!!! The dj stated yesterday "Ladies, if your man is trying to get back with you and he has done wrong, this might help....."

Dear DJ:

What the fuck are you trying to say?...You saying this stupid ass song should be in rotation, a top 10 joint, a favorite of the ladies...the new mans theme song *for those who have done wrong*. I swear if this song gets played again on the radio, I'm going back to gangsta rap (I'm lying).

Some of the songs I have have gotten the least amount pf play are:

UNCLE SAM I mean yeah, she cheated on you w/ your homie, but get your ass up out your pajamas and do something...lets face it, she's a cheating "you know what"...and as for your homie, thats your call. Good thing my friends and I don't really have the same taste in women. YOU GOT PLAYED, HOMES!...eat up and on to the next one.

USHER Sir, you get dropped onto this list as well. You got Puffy calling you, begging you to come out because you heart is hurt. You better buy a bottle of Patron and drink your self to sleep or hit the scene...But wait, you did hit the club and dance w/ every girl there....GO USHER *side eye*

MARIO WINANS Sucker of all suckers....This song officially pissed me off. The beat was hot and thats about it. You were hurt because she cheated, I understand that. You thought you were in love and I can dig that.....BUT dude, you are in the tub w/ the water up to your neck like life is officially over. Then you tell me "I don't wanna know"...Booooy STOP. I DO WANT TO KNOW, so i can deal with her ass and his. Mario you telling me you if your girl is sleeping around on you, that you don't want to know anything because your heart is as fragile as a piece of glass?....Maybe THAT'S why you only had like 2 hits.....I think the ladies stop loving you after this track

EAMON I don't know what to say about this track...I do know that I laugh each time I play it or hear it. I mean he was the most intense of the bunch who have come out w/ the soppy goodbye love songs. I mean he stated clearly in the song what he meant, but he definitely sat at the table expressing the rest of his feelings. My problem with this track is that he acted like all the gifts,kisses and other stuff is all null and void....I mean dude, you can TRY to take the meaning away from them, but whats done is done.

Now back to the initial track by RydazNrtisT :Ya'll have officially jacked it up. You can definitely believe that there will be a female who will forgive your duck ass for the stupid stuff you did like not telling those girls to stop calling your house, because you have a girl, the lies, and oh yeah...whatever dirt you've done....SMH. As for the "good guys" out there, I don't know bruh, you might have to wait around for her, cuz she just gave this clown another chance....but wait, I have a track you can play for her when its all said and done >>>>>>> WALE- DIARY

Solo Dolo

Show Number 2, I was on a Solo Mission with my boy "D". He held it down with me in the absence of my co-host. First, let me apologize for the music, it is super fuzzy and shouldn't sound like this, but the player that I was using before sounded even worse. Can't wait til the next show. The music will be just as good if not better and the topics will be the same....So stay tuned....Leave your comments....Thanks for listening!

News Flash ***Don't Judge Me I'm Late***

So my newest hobby is SO officially here. As of last Thursday, I started a show called "Something Intimate" where we'll be talking about more than enough topics. This is something I've thought about doing before and although its not super professional in a studio and all, I feel good about it. The first show was definitely not by the book, but we pretty much held it down by staying within our window and sticking to the topics.

My co-host is a Cali native and currently resides out there. She and I actually collaborated on this idea about 4 months ago, after listening to this other show via Ustream.tv . Of course I am holding in down in New Orleans and we have found our way around a few obstacles that prolonged our start. This South Coast to West Coast deal is pretty fun, minus the timezone

Tomorrow's topic will be fun...hoping my blogspot readers can come check me out. I know those night owls will be up with me chatting it up. We take calls via Skype, Yahoo and even have chat on Ustream. You probably missed the last show, so click here on SOMETHING INTIMATE and listen to us from last week...let me know what you think. Also we have a facebook fan page with the same name, so add us!

This is Where Idle Time Gets Me

Pet peeves, we all have them, but I think mine can be extra special sometimes. Only because I've let so much go in the past and tried to ignore the small things....I don't think I've progressed much, tell me what you think, please?

Not in the correct ranking order, but not far off

#1 Sliding feet across a surface: Let me get straight to the point.....Pick your damn feet up. What is so hard about left foot, right foot. I can blame this across the board. I've seen big people do it, and I've seen small people do it too...its not that hard people...Lift and step...Lift and step again

#2 Muffin tops: Geeze, I've probably expressed this before, but clearly it's something that continues to bother me. Sweetheart, if you're a 12, leave the 10's and 8's to those who can wear them. Muffin tops should be treated like wearing pants below the waist.

#3 My personal mutha f'n space: That should just explain enough. Because it doesn't, I will explain a little more in dept. If I'm sitting alone w/ my thing spread over the table...that is not an invitation for a stranger to come and hang out...and please don't talk, because I WILL put my headphones on. Also standing in line...Why do people want to stand so damn close to you at times. I don't want to smell what kind of gum you might be chewing or what you had for lunch. I mean you HAVE to know you are in my space.

#4 Pseudo Ladies: This is pretty simple to me.... A female who stresses how much she should be respected for whatever reasons, but you wearing the uniform of a "hoe" all the time. Lets be real, if you taking pictures of yourself in your bathroom, in your drawls/half naked for example, you can't expect the average individual to treat you like a lady....instead of holding that camera up in the mirror, just stare in it for a minute and reflect. Ask "What might I be doing to my potential image?"...Sleep on that!

#5 People who volunteer lies: This could probably be something I could go in really deep about, but I won't...I'll stick to the surface of it. I have something that an ex told me when I was younger..."There are some things that should just be taken to the grave". So if I didn't ask you, and you think it might piss me off.....KEEP IT TO YOURSELF!. I experienced someone a few years back who volunteered a lie and it ticked me off when i found out, and yes I called her out on it...then she was speechless. Now I thought why in the hell did she tell me period...or why didn't she just tell me the truth. Not even close, she fabricated this grand story and it all turned on her without me ever asking about this situation....WHO THE F' KNOWS WHY???....I'm still trying to figure that one out.

**Sigh**, Week ending 2/26/2010

Decided to venture down the road today to a newly suggested spot that is very familiar to the eye, but I've never visited. I think I like it. Came in, order my drink and a small snack popped in my Badu, and start enjoying the scenery. Having my sister here would be the only thing to complete the experience.

I'm trying to finish the week off by getting rid of this 3 day headache (easier said than done). Maybe my music will level out my thoughts and stress. Seems to be the one thing that brings be back down from the random places that I tend to venture off to....Good news about today is that I think I opened a 17yr old's eyes to leaving this city for school. I think he genuinely would like to experience what it is like outside the this place ((success)). Granted the rest of the class was sleep, but they are jerks anyway. So, one down...15 more to wake up!

Long weekend ahead of workouts, meetings and projects...I need a damn secretary who works for free or one who gets paid of hugs....#dontjudgeme<<<<(twitter talk)

Thought I Could Hold It Off....

She said "Welcome to 30"

Me, "What?!, but I'll only be 27"

She stated again, "WELCOME to 30"

A snippet from a conversation I had with my sibling not long ago. Listening to me talk about who has been, is, and will possibly be entering my life, she has come to the conclusion that my 20s are over. Of course I battled that idea, but her ten years of experience shut that down within 5mins of the conversation.

Not that I don't look forward to it **I secretly don't** but, I just hadn't evaluated how I think about certain things they way she did.

Told me, will stop hanging out in clubs....I'm about a year or two into that quest.

Said I will look at the "club female" differently....Yeah, like she's a distraction from me getting to my drink.

Elaborated on the idea that chasing would be almost non existent....LMAO, I stopped traveling across town once...clearly these omens are true.

"Aww, my little brother is changing" she said....***me thinking** "Oh great, is this for the better or worst????

Ah well, 20s it was fun knowing ya. I had great times and you treated my liver well. You taught me things that no one ever could. We should definitely write each other sometime or maybe even hang out once or twice a year....Just a thought. I'll miss yo bud **tear**

Riddle me this!

So this is the short version of tonight's thoughts/conversation. During the course of a conversation I made a joke about finding a "boo" on match.com or myspace.com. Well what was said to me was, " How about meeting someone the old-fashion way"

I stated, "Old-fashion like what?...grocery store, bookstore, mall, coffee shop, museum?"

She said "that might work"

I said, "Yes that's ideal, but its not likely"

She said " we've gotten so lazy with this technology"

Well although I was joking about the online dating thing. It made me wonder about some things. I am a male who goes places alone at times and I'm very observant in my surroundings. I followed up by asking "how am I suppose to do it old fashion when old-fashion doesn't really exist anymore?"

Lets take my personal experience for example:

Grocery: Rarely do I see a young black woman shopping....not that they don't but its a rare occasion.

Mall: Seriously...who wants a dude trying to get at them when they are trying to shop.

Bookstore: Been back in N.O. for a year and can count on both hands how many times I've seen a black woman in the bookstore.

Coffee shop: Same as the bookstore

Museum: Might be a place i luck up on but what are the chances?...and why is this my only real option?

Personally I'm not into meeting someone at the club and expecting to be serious or taken serious. I mean how often can you get something out of that specific kind of introduction.

Now my question is....Where do you all hang out?....The good, level headed women of the world who claim they are looking for a good man...Where would the average good guy find you? I'd like to know so I can pass the word on the the rest of the males who are just as lost as I am on this topic. Now for those who are sensitive to text, I am writing this because I hear more women vent about this so I pose the question to you all.

Note, this does not apply to women who make themselves "visually available"...I'm just trying to answer the question above...Where?

LOL F**k YOU, I'm offended

So many people know, get on my FB page and go on random moments of playing songs that I love have been introduced to in past and recent years. I have a huge love for most genres of music and can share more than most people can even think of. Granted I was never a music major, musician or DJ, but my passion for the art is up there.

Point of this blog is random and quick...I was told not long ago "you don't know about xxxxx"..... Hold up!, how the "f" you gonna tell me I'm not a fan of this person because I've never brought them up to YOU...so i feel like this "F**k you, I'm offended....I have song that will run circles around your head." Thing is, usually I would have taken that as a joke, but this individual was so serious and told me I had never heard their first or second cd, so I don't know about them. I'm sorry, but you are saying this to the individual who was rocking Robin Thicke's cd "Beautiful Mind" before a lot of people even knew of "Lost Without You"on the Evolution cd ...I mean come on, son! Lol....just thought I'd share that random thought with you guys....I'm done...til next time

Wouldn't trade it for the world

Its not me, I know its not me....I thought it was at first, but I'm convinced its definitely not me. Most of my experience with dating I've been given grief for having female friends. I have about 3 from high school (one I've been know since 13), 1 from college, 1 from Atl (my movie homie) and one newly acquired who's across the country.

My question is: why should I be judged because I have women in my life who give me good advice on some of the scandalous women who are in the world who are doing the most. I mean my sister does a damn good job, but the generational gap only allows me to deal w/ older women.

"You must like her..."

"Y'all must have had something..."

"Why do you have so many female friend?"

Yeah....my answer to all those is that...I like to know a woman's views on things, so I have an idea of how you all think. I know I'll never master it, but I will come as close as I can so I can avoid as many unnecessary issues as I can. I wouldn't trade their advice for anything.

Personally I think that every female should have at least 2 or 3 guys friends who they can trust to give them a heads up on how some men are. Why?...to avoid the BULLSHIT...yes!...think about it...every time you say "This is some bullshit" think...you should have had a sit down with your boy, and he probably would have let you know what was up before you stepped into that situation. Now you are running back to your girls who either can't break their own foolish cycle and says give him another chance or the one who has no clue what she's talking about. Seldom do you get info that is helpful that isn't provided by a man **the source**....This goes for guys as well, which is why I would not trade these women for anything. When I talk to them, they help keep me out of harms way....Thanks Ladies!

This event that will remain unnamed....

A day that can cause drama, bring love, and allow forgiveness has tainted our lives and divided us. I am on the fence with it to be honest. Personally, celebrating it is something I can do without. I'm definitely not anti ********* Day, but I don't like to make it seem like I'm making up for the other 364 days of the year. I guess saying that I don't like to celebrate it would be too harsh..how about, I don't like to make a big deal of the day...Yeah that sounds much better (for the sensitive readers).

I have NOT had a ********* and I have satisfied the need of an ex because it was special to her. What can I say, I'm a man of many talents.

Now I really think we should rename it "I'm making up for all the bullshit day" cause that is what most use it as.

But this year for ********* Day I will not bash the lovers although I'm sure others will think I am. I'm happy for those who are truly just seeing this as another day, and still doing something nice for each other. Don't forget ladies, its not a one way street....we like candy and stuff too.

I kinda missed my days of putting something down though for the "singles"...I did have a them song for us though "YOU ARE NOT ALONE"-M.J. ...**just the chorus should help**

I'd really like to know what you'll think on this?